This quotation was in Common Prayer this morning. It spoke to me; it might speak to someone else (especially those who have to have people to help!).
Jean Vanier, founder of the L’Arche communities, has written,
“To love someone is not first of all to do things for them, but to reveal to them their beauty and value, to say to them through our attitude: ‘You are beautiful. You are important. I trust you. You can trust yourself.’ We all know well that we can do things for others and in the process crush them, making them feel that they are incapable of doing things by themselves. To love someone is to reveal to them their capacities for life, the light that is shining in them.”